How I Stopped Being A Bunny Pleaser

I spent the first half of my life being a bunny pleaser. One whole year wasted trying to please others, while never taking time for myself. Don’t fall into the same trap I did. (Also watch out for that beaver trap down by the stream.)

Yes, it is good to help others when possible, but you shouldn’t let bunnies take advantage of you. It’s alright to say no.

I can’t tell you how many times I went along with the bunny colony when I didn’t want to. Just to be liked. Someone would say, “Let’s go eat some radishes out of Farmer Brown’s garden.” I hate radishes! Yet, I would say, “That’s a great idea.” Then I would have to choke down some disgusting radishes with a smile.

I was a typical “yes” bunny. Whatever any bunny said, I agreed. Even if I thought it was a dumb idea. I can’t tell you how many friends I lost because they said, “Hey, let’s go look for food on the road,” and I was too timid to say, “That’s not a good idea.”

I was always saying yes to every request. A bunny would say, “Will you watch my thirty babies for a month while my wife and I go on vacation?” And being the bunny pleaser that I am, I would reply, “Sure.” I suppose I thought other bunnies might not like me if I said no.

I started to wonder if bunnies actually liked me, or just like my cuddly nature? Were they taking advantage of me?

Being a bunny pleaser, I always avoided conflict. I had a particular friend who continually came over and ate my food and then asked for seconds. I always gave in because I wanted to avoid a confrontation.

Then one day he came over and asked for some honey. I had finally had enough. I said, “Sorry. Not today. I only have enough for me.”

He seemed rather surprised and flustered. But he got the message and left.

I felt a little bad about being so firm with him.

But at least I don’t have a Pooh Bear stuck in my door again.

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